On this episode of The Miracle You join your host Vince Kramer of Imagine Miracles and his special guest Dr. Deb Silber while they talk about how to move beyond the hurt and pain of betrayal into stronger and healthier relationships with others. Learn to support yourself in finding empowerment.
Debi is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert and the author of the #1 bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis.
Her recent PhD study on how we experience betrayal made 3 groundbreaking discoveries that changes how long it takes to heal. In addition to being a two time TEDx speaker, a guest on FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz Show and more, she’s an award winning speaker, coach and author dedicated to helping people move past their betrayals…once and for all. Debi is the expert in overcoming Post Betrayal Syndrome which is impacting your health, work and relationships.
Episode Resources:
Website: https://pbtinstitute.com
Free Gift Download: https://pbtinstitute.com/free
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform
Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/
Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/
Three Key Points:
Wakeup calls in our lives open the doors for us to step into a life of who we really are. There’s an opportunity for us to look at the situation and make decisions to enjoy life. Trauma from betrayal is different from regular wakeup calls.
Time doesn’t heal in terms of betrayal. That’s a popular misconception. It takes rebuilding, and rebuilding is a choice. If you want to rebuild, then healing is completely possible.
We’re usually not betrayed by people we don’t know, but by the people that are the closest to us. It’s difficult to move from the victim stage of your life to an empowered stage of your life.
Show Notes:
4:08 – With four kids and six dogs, Dr. Debi Silber shares that her biggest accomplishment is doing the work she loves.
6:00 – Being in business for 28 years in the health mindset personal development field, Debi has had her fair share of betrayals that led her into her PhD program.
7:10 – Since betrayal feels so intentional, we take it so personally. We have to heal from worthiness, trust, rejection and abandonment from betrayal.
9:05 – You never really see3 the gifts of your trauma going through it. But it’s true that there are many gifts and lessons to be given from trauma, and Debi shares how this is all true.
11:02 – Some people don’t want to change, and so many people are afraid of change. But it leads to a life that’s so much better.
12:46 – The most difficult group of people who do not heal from betrayal is when the betrayer had no consequences. Where because of religious reasons, fear, or some other reason, they had to turn the other cheek. The mind and body can’t handle that. If there is not complete destruction of the past relationship, there is no opportunity for a new one to be rebuilt.
14:41 – Just because the betrayal happened to you, doesn’t mean that it’s really about you. Betrayal has many faces. We can even betray ourselves.
17:30 – Easy now, hard later. Hard now, easy later. Take your pick, it’s going to be one of those two. We do things to numb or distract ourselves from things that are difficult to take.
21:00 – Debi shares her difficulty and path of healing from betrayal to someone who is empowered and changing the world by helping others.
26:30 – It’s difficult for all parties involved in a betrayal to rebuild. Relationships are like a brick wall, and they’re built brick by brick. One instance of betrayal will break that wall down, and it has to be built brick by brick again.
Imagine Miracles Resources:
- Your Unique Purpose Formula: Vince’s Five-Step Process to Discover Your Purpose and Your Miracle Life.
- C.R.E.A.T.E Model: Vince’s Six Steps to Creating and Living the Life that You Desire.
- Free Chapter: From Vince’s Best-selling Book Sharing the Four Things You Don’t Know Keeping You From Living a Miracle Life.